The world was built around men, and women are tired of adapting to it
If you think feminism is about splitting the bill at a restaurant and insisting that women join the army, I have bad news for you. You know little about feminism, and even less about what women are actually fighting for. You also have no idea how often the modern world still works as a man’s world, one in which women are expected to adapt.
Let’s start with the home, where one of the main injustices begins. It is also one of the reasons women with families so often struggle to build careers.
I am not talking only about washing dishes or doing laundry. I mean the invisible control center that runs constantly in a woman’s head: booking the child’s dentist appointment, checking homework, soaking the beans, buying washing powder, remembering what is missing from the fridge. Across the world, women carry out around three-quarters of unpaid domestic work. This is not just cleaning and cooking. It is a constant stream of tasks that is not pinned to the fridge as a neat list, but simply lives in the back of her mind.
Career progress often depends on being able to stay late at work, or sit with your boss at a company party late into the night, discussing strategy over a few drinks. But who is at home with the children? Who picks them up from daycare? That’s right: women. They miss the chance to be treated as fully available employees because everything at home still has to be in order, and because the child has to come home on time and not go to bed alone.
In 1975, Icelandic women staged a strike that is still talked about today. One Friday, 90% of women simply did not turn up for work and did not lift a finger around the house. Men had to cope with the household chores on their own. Ready meals disappeared from supermarkets within hours. Offices filled with crying children because nursery staff were women too. Even calling someone to arrange help became difficult, because those workers were also women. After that day, many laws in Iceland were revised to improve women’s lives.
Now let’s step outside. I am a mother with a baby carriage, and the city greets me with staircases without ramps, narrow sidewalks and raised curbs that seem to ask: are you sure you want to go this way? Most buildings and streets were designed without considering that a woman might be moving through the city with a baby carriage, following a route that takes her to school, work, the clinic and the shop. This is not necessarily malicious. It is simply that the people sitting at the planning table for hours had often never pushed a baby carriage themselves.
Then I get into the car and once again feel as if I have been forgotten. For decades, crash tests were carried out using male dummies, with male body shapes and weight distributions. Engineers are not conspirators, of course. The female body is more complex to model. But the result is the same: in an identical crash, a woman may face a higher risk of serious injury because the safety systems were not calibrated for her. Perhaps it is time to put dummies with different measurements in the car.
Now imagine I have driven to the pharmacy. For a long time, medicines were tested mainly on men, while women were sidelined. After all, we have periods, hormonal fluctuations and the possibility of becoming pregnant, so how can the experiment be “pure”? As a result, women take medicines tested on a hypothetical 70-kilogram man, and doctors are sometimes genuinely surprised when the body does not react as the textbook says it should.
Even a textbook heart attack can look different in women, often appearing as tiredness, nausea or other less obvious symptoms. Meanwhile, clutching at one’s heart is treated as the standard picture, even though that is more often the male version. Add to this the fact that female physiology is still sometimes presented in textbooks as a deviation from the norm, and it becomes deeply uncomfortable. A woman as a deviation from the norm? Seriously?
I have an autoimmune condition that affects women more often than men, yet much of the research has historically been carried out on men. The condition remains poorly understood partly because studies have not always reflected the people most affected by it. The medication was not developed with women properly in mind either. It is hard not to see the irony.
Finally, a brief note on work, because maternity leave does eventually end. Uniforms and protective clothing are still often made to men’s measurements, even though women’s bodies and muscle structure are different. Poor equipment can hinder a woman’s ability to work effectively, including in professions where she may be saving lives. But who cares?
At the end of the day, feminism is not about fighting men. It is about asking the world to stop pretending that humanity consists of people of one gender, one size and one set of needs.
Women can join the army, split the bill and do all the other things people use as dismissive arguments. But the real struggle is not about proving that women can do everything men do. It is about making sure the world is organized in a way that works for both men and women.
That is a very different thing.
This article was first published by the online newspaper Gazeta.ru and was translated and edited by the RT team
